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Becoming PsyberResilient

Welcome to the PsyberResilience edition of Get A Grip

A career in cybersecurity can be one of the most rewarding and fulfilling, and in so many different ways. But it can also be one of the most stressful.

Those stresses are fracturing people and security teams, complicating the already critical skills shortage, and wasting valuable talent unnecessarily. And as I found out so personally, it just doesn’t have to be that way. At all.

Mental Health With A Security Twist

In case you’re not familiar with the background of this project, I decided to finally quit a 40-year security career after I could no longer sustain the weight of nearly 50 years of a variety of untreated mental illnesses that resulted in nearly 30 years of chronic stress, a final burnout, and a close call with suicide. Here’s a little more about my security background, in case you’re interested.

It was time to take on a new challenge, time to learn to protect a much more critical infrastructure. Time to get better acquainted with my own brain, get a grip on the chaos:

  • What really causes things like depression, anxiety, and stress, and what hormones and chemicals are responsible?
  • Can we really control those hormones and tame all that chaos, stress, and just by thinking about it?
  • How can things like mindfulness, breathing, even exercise, permanently rewire our brains and turn us into healthier and happier people?

Get A Grip is the result of that exploration, a three-year tour of neuroscience, of the mind. And this edition includes a focus on the state of stress and mental health in cybersecurity, and what we all can and need to do about it.

Get A Grip is collection of 15 short video episodes, each an average of just six minutes, and covering almost everything you need to know about your mind, your mood, and your brain.

Each video is designed as a standalone, meaning you don’t have to watch the entire series for each episode to make sense and help you change your mind, mood, and brain.

Episode 1: Welcome to PsyberResilience

Episode 2: So what are the PsyberStressors?

Episode 3: Managing PsyberStress

Episode 4: Welcome To Get A Grip

Episode 5: Getting a Grip on Stress

Episode 6: Meet Your DOSE Hormones, how they control your mood, and how you can control them.

Episode 7: Welcome to the two most important words in brain health – neuroplasticity and neurogenesis.

Episode 8: The Miracle of Mindfulness.

Episode 9: How breathing can change your brain and your life.

Episode 10: How learning, exercise, and music can change your brain, mind, and mood.

Episode 11: Food, Mood, and your Brain.

Episode 12: The importance of happiness to mental health, and how to construct it.

Episode 13: How kindness, gratitude, giving, and purpose can change your brain and your life

Episode 14: What we can learn about mental health and longevity from the world’s only five Blue Zones.

Episode 15: What the future of mental wellness and brain health will look like.


Check out the first PsyberResilience episode here.




I’m not a medical or mental health professional, so none of these videos should be construed as medical advice. They are based on my own 50 years experience dealing with a multitude of mental illnesses (depression, social anxiety with avoidant personality, ADD, and suicidal ideation, yay for me); the years I’ve spent studying mental and brain health (I started exploring the subject in 1987); the results of personal experiments and techniques I’ve tried (hint, they all work); and current thinking from leading mental health experts and neuroscientists.


I’d love to know what you think about these videos. I’m a cybersecurity guy, so video is pretty new to me. All the videos are written, recorded, and edited by me, and hopefully they’ll get better. So please share your reactions, good and bad, about the content, look and feel, my presence and delivery, the lighting sound, background, anything you can think of.


If you’re struggling with any kind of mental health or emotional issue, need to talk, or would just like to learn more about these important topics, please reach out to me at emailme(at) or use this contact form.


“Neal’s honesty and self-reflection on his experiences helped remove any stigma around the conversation; resulting in excellent audience participation including sharing their concerns, stressors, and coping mechanisms. Thank you Neal!”


“Thank you for your amazing and truly relevant content in today’s environment which is heavily impacting Mental Health.”


“I really enjoyed Neal’s presentation about Taming the Emotional Chaos in a Disrupted World. Lots of useful ideas with backed science behind them. I look forward to attending his talks again in the future.”


“The information is EXCELLENT! I am delighted at how the presenter openly and unapologetically discussed his personal experiences with mental health. So many people suffer from anxiety, depression, etc., and this just helps to reinforce with people that they are not alone. THANK YOU!!!!!”


“Wonderful! Great presentation!”


“Neal has the courage to broach a difficult topic, leveraging his own experience, and make potentially complex content very easy to understand. Neal also provides some basic and helpful guidelines on how to manage stress and reduce its harmful side effects. His delivery is compelling, and he had my interest throughout the entire presentation.”


“What a much-needed self-improvement session! The content covered all aspects in improving difficulties in your life including stress management. “


“Incredibly interesting and relevant topic, especially in today’s Covid world. The “DAM” piece (Dismiss, Accept, Manage) related to stressors was highly useful. And always remember to BREATHE!”


“Great communicator, found the information that Neal shared to be very relevant and practical. Only complaint was that the one-hour session was too short. Highly recommend!”


“The event today was extremely beneficial and provided awesome information with immediate action steps to reduce your stress levels.”


“Neal has again hit it out of the park by making the mental health topic personable with his storytelling skills. His dry humor also helps! “DAM”, Dismiss, Accept, Manage will definitely help me cope when I feel overwhelmed next time. Thank you Neal.”


“I love Neal’s story and how he’s been able to pivot to find joy in his life again. The content and information he shared made it seem easily adaptable to my life and working through challenges I face. Great presentation!”


“Neal O’Farrell is great presenter and he helped give me great tips on how to better myself!”


“Attending Neal’s talk was very enlightening and hit the spot on ways we endure stress. Mindfulness is such a great reminder on how we can eliminate our daily stress. I look forward to following Neal to learn more ways on how to deal with work fatigue and the unknown.”

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